Is it all a question of openess?

Straits Times, 15 March 2006

I FULLY agree with this writer. Many youths now view those who are against pre-marital sex as immature, prejudiced and judgemental. As the word itself descibes - pre-marital sex is unnatural because it is sexual intercourse before marriage. I believe sex is a gift given from God but only to married couples. Even the majority of non-christians believe that such activity should only be practiced when the couple is married. Hence, i believe my stand is not bias. After all, sex is sacred. Like the question the writer posed, does taking a stand against pre-marital sex mean you have an enlightened mind? Of course not. Many youths now are under great peer pressure; in order not to look old-fashioned, follow their friends in lifestyle choices - sexual behaviour in dating, pornography and clubbing habits etc. These teens believe that openess to sex is a mark of maturity. I strongly am against this! Of course not! As it is written in the bible, when a man has sexual intercourse with another, he is uniting himself with her in flesh. This should only be done between a married man and wife. While sexual intercourse between a man and another man or a woman with another woman is homosexuality, which is sexual immorality and is greater sin the Lord's eyes. People view sex as pleasurable and it can be done according to the individual and own's instinct. Than how are we differentiated from animals? We are no better than animals if we treat sex like all our other impluses! Where has all the efforts to promoting abstinence from sex outside marriage gone to if people are so obstinate towards seeing that pre-marital sex is not wrong? Indeed even if the decision to have sex prior to marriage has been made after great consideration, there is the commitment to the permanent relationship that has been made after such intercourse. The social problems will also surface. What happens if the female youth becomes expectant? What happens to her studies, family and own diginity? Sex is not a question of openess but the commitment and union between the couple. It is sacred and should remain the same.